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Inspire Counselling has arrived

At Inspire Counselling we are trained professionals able to use a wide range of approaches to address specific problems, helping to make changes and foster wellbeing.

The therapeutic relationship is of utmost importance to us, and key to effective and meaningful therapy. This is developed over time and is a crucial part of the process that allows you, the client to move towards an increased level of self-awareness and develop behaviours that will better serve you.

It is with empathy and support that we help clients to see things a little more clearly, and possibly from a different view point, with the aim of overcoming personal challenges, and working towards positive changes.

This collaborative work is done in a safe, caring, trusting, confidential and non-judgemental setting, and at the pace of the client.

We are aware that no two people are alike, and experiences are unique, hence each client will receive therapy that is tailor-made and personalised to meet their needs.

We believe in enabling the exploration of thoughts, feelings and behaviours by talking freely and openly.  Providing this opportunity helps to reduce confusion, encourage clients to make their own choices based on their values, and to act on them accordingly.

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How are those emotional bank accounts looking?

Emotional Resilience

Refers to our ability to adapt to stressful situations or crises. The more resilient we are, the more likely we will be to ‘roll with the punches’ & adapt to adversity without lasting difficulties. Less resilience means we will have a more challenging time with stress & dealing with changes both minor & major.

As human we are highly capable & creative problem-solvers who can become stronger & more flexible in times of stress. Being aware of ourselves, & how we react to difficult situations helps us to build emotional resilience.

5 Steps to help create emotional resilience

  1. Choose self-efficacy

 

When a problem arises, own what is happening to you instead of turning to something to help you cope (drugs, alcohol etc.). Use critical thinking, reasoning & problem-solving techniques, this will help you trust your instincts more. Resist the urge to blame others or expect too much of them.  You know best what works for you, so give it a try!

2. Emphasise empathy

This helps build own self-worth. Practice seeing yourself & others as having value, without promoting entitlement or enabling anyone. Being thankful & self-sufficient frees up energy to become empathic. The bonus of empathy practice is the effect of oxytocin (the happy hormone) that is released when we care for others. It affects our brain chemistry in a positive way.

3. Practice patience

 When in a difficult situation, use your positive self-talk & be mindful. Notice what is happening on all levels rather than focusing on the negatives. Choose mindfully to look at what can be learnt from the situation instead of escaping. Seeing yourself as courageous & brave as opposed to a victim of circumstance is very helpful.

4. Create capacity

 Considering what the root of the cause might be, rather than finding a temporary fix is the best way to go. Perhaps it’s an unresolved hurt or a chronic condition & it may not have an immediate solution, but it is possible to experience peace despite the pressure.

Many superficial solutions can be destructive, so choose to become emotionally resilient by avoiding going toward the downward spiral of a quick fix & move into the upward investment of lasting reward.

5. Perceiving possibilities

 Be curious & strive to make connections that can bridge any knowledgeable gaps. Listen to others with an open mind to see if you are missing something. Accept & learn from constructive criticism & take some time out to experience something that challenges you to think deeply, this could be watching something or reading something.  The ability to make wiser decisions relies on having more information.

At Inspire Counselling we value YOU & your abilities to overcome your challenges. If you are struggling we are here to help you take the next step to achieving successful outcomes.

Reference:   PsychCentral.com

 Coming next month ….

 Adapting to change and resilience characteristics in individuals including the role they play during change.

Emotional wellness and beyond

 

As we reflect on the year that was (2017) and look to the year that is (2018), for many of us it will be filled with mixed emotions, thoughts and feelings, and not necessarily all good either. As long as we can embrace the good stuff that happened and be grateful for opportunities we received that keep us moving forward, we can bank these moments into our own emotional bank accounts. The idea is to build the account up with all the good stuff (memories, emotions, experiences, opportunities etc.) and when we are having not so good moments we can make a withdrawal. These withdrawals can help us to deal a little better with our challenges and difficult times by focusing on the positives, thus counters the negative. If our bank balance is depleted with no recent deposits of positiveness in which to draw on, this will have a bigger impact and make a much bigger dent in our emotional wellbeing.

So keep making as many deposits as you can to keep the balance healthy, and you will definitely reap the benefits.

Remember:  ‘ Experience is not what happens to you – it’s how you interpret what happens to you.’ Reference:  ‘The 7 Irrefutable Laws of Emotional Intelligence’ by Emilia Ludovino.

Inspire Counselling would like to wish you all a very Happy & Inspiring New Year!

This year Inspire Counselling we will be focusing on ‘emotional wellness’.

Coming in February – ‘Emotional Resillience’ a healthy way to manage your life and your emotions including skills to adjust to change and move on.

The Festive Season

The festive season can be a stressful time of year and challenging for so many different reasons. Heightened expectations, expense, family tensions, just to name a few.

From October the shops are filled with festive merchandise, food stuffs, decorations, all of which are a reminder of the season ahead.

Holidays can also be especially hard when you are feeling a sense of loss. It may be that you are coming up to a significant milestone without a loved one who has passed away. Give yourself permission to grieve and if things get too hard to handle, contact support from family/friends or other services.

As much as the celebratory season can be a time of joy, fun, family & sharing, it can also highlight loneliness, isolation & fractured relationships. Sadness can abound at this time, leaving people feeling vulnerable & helpless. What can be helpful is reaching out in your own way to those less fortunate, either by helping out at your local community service or donate a little cash, food stuffs or gifts to one of the many charities that support those in need.

It is important to remember that we all have different values, interests and incomes – which can make organising events messy when people are expecting different things. Letting your family/friends know what your limitations are, as overstretching things can lead to conflict, and remember it’s ok to say ‘no’.

Accepting that this time of year can influence strange habits and funny ways of others, may help you not be surprised when these things happen.

Whatever your experience may be, try to keep a sense of humour, as it could be the best coping mechanism you can apply.

 

Inspire Counselling would like to wish you and your families a happy, safe and meaningful festive time ahead.

 

If you are seeking help, we welcome your enquiry. We can provide tools for you to implement if feeling challenged.

 

Connecting to self

If you are tired of living up to the expectations of others & feel that you are not living an authentic life of being true to yourself, then you may benefit from reading this.

Disconnecting from ego & connecting with your essential self, without trying to be something other than what you truly are, forms the basis of the bliss of selflessness.

The good news is that it is not hard to do & a good place to start is to simply observe nature. Getting outdoors to notice every flower, tree, cloud, bird etc. just as they are without any struggle.

Embarking on a journey of connection – connection to your true self takes time, time to learn about yourself & discover what it is that you are meant to be doing.

To help you along the way, we suggest that you consider the following questions:

*  what is the one thing that makes you truly happy?

*  what makes you feel at your happiest?

*  what is it that you would like to change?

*  imagine yourself in old age, what would you regret not having done?

It is challenging connecting to ourselves, especially living in a world where so much floods our senses, resulting in influences being high.  We are consuming material things & information at an amazing rate. We engage in social media as a way of connecting to people & it validates us, but often at the expense of true feeling.

We can feel fearful of looking within at ourselves as we are & instead choose distraction. Sometimes this can be ok, but if it becomes our regular behaviour, then it will stop us from connecting to ourselves.

Feeling confident & centred about where we are is important to the understanding of our feelings, emotions, desires, knowledge of our strengths & acknowledgment of our limitations.

When we connect to ourselves it is possible to know our pleasures, fears, ambitions, anxieties for what they are. We can perceive them with clarity and without internal conflict.

A strong connection is sometimes all that we need to keep us sane in this ever changing world.

   Quote:

 If you are expressing who you really are, then Buddha says.

“joy follows you like a shadow & never leaves you,” www.tinybudha.com

Contact Inspire Counselling to help you with any struggles you may be experiencing, whether it’s connecting to self or other issues.

0416 493 343

www.inspirecounselling.net

Angry?

There are many reasons why you might often ask yourself, “Why do I get so angry?” You might be angry because of internal thoughts and feelings you are experiencing. There could also be external things going on that are to blame for your anger.

Feeling angry is a normal human emotion. It happens on a continuum that varies from annoyance to full-on rage. It’s when anger gets out of hand that it becomes dangerous. In these types of situations, counselling can assist youto get to the bottom of your anger.

Why Do I Get So Angry?

Noticing what is happening and how you are feeling just before you get angry can help you pinpoint the triggers. Different things make people angry, and being aware of the cause of your anger can help you get to the root of the problem.

Start journaling daily and write everything that you feel. If you can, carry a small notebook around and write down what happened just before you got angry.

Did you spill coffee on yourself? Did you attend a meeting with an annoying co-worker? What could it be? Put it in your journal.

How Can I Find Calm?

Once you start noticing a pattern as to why you get angry, you can develop a strategy for avoiding anger when possible and coping with it when it is inevitable. The trick is finding out what makes you tick so you can then keep yourself calm.

Try to find creative solutions to your problems, especially if the same things are making you angry each day.

Here are some general things that you can do to manage your anger on a regular basis and promote calm and relaxation in your life:

  1. Start a Morning Routine

  2. Breathe Mindfully throughout the day

  3. Speak to a counsellor to help you develop solutions to your concerns.

Inspire Counselling is convenient offering many locations on the Central Coast, safe and affordable. Our professional counsellors will assist you to identify and manager your anger in a healthy manner.

Call Inspire Counselling on 0146 493 343 or visit our web site www.inspircouselling.net  you can also email on info@inspirecounselling.net

 

I can’t stop crying

I can’t stop Crying: What should I do about it?

Crying is inevitable! From tears of sadness to moments of happiness …everyone cries. Bur if you feel like you are than usual, we’er here to help you figure it out.

Here are three quick ways to get started.:

  1. Talk to someone: Whether it is a friend, doctor or therapist – find someone that you trust and share what you are feeling. Sometimes, expressing what you are feeling on the inside to someone on the outside can make a huge difference.
  2. Seek help: You are not alone: 1 in 10 people suffer from mood disorder throughout the course of their life. Counselling, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and other treatments are available to help you feel yourself again.
  3. Do a little extra: Sometimes, adjusting your diet or exercise can help you get back on track by improving your mood and gaining more energy.
 

 

 

Become the best version of ourselves

         The people we surround ourselves with either raise or

          lower our standards.

          They either help us to become the best version of ourselves

          or encourage us to become lesser versions of ourselves.

          We become like our friends.

        

          No man becomes great on his own.

          No woman becomes great on her own.

          The people around them help to make them great.

 

          We all need people in our lives who raise our standards,

           remind us of our essential purpose, and challenge us

           to become the best version of ourselves.

       

 

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